Sunday, January 24, 2010

there can be only win

. . . if you follow your true passion.

But it’s not easy figuring out what that is. No, not easy at all.

Today’s post will be all about winning for you, while ignoring those negative internal/external forces.

We all want to be in that position, don’t we? We want to wake up in the morning and leap out of bed, excited about what the day will bring us, not dreading it. So how do I get there, you may ask?

Well, follow the steps below and you will find the climb to your passion, which resides on the top floor, the best exercise you can ever undertake.

1) What really gets you excited?

This sounds easy, but believe me it is perhaps the second hardest thing you will do on your climb to living your dream. (the hardest part is yet to come) I’ve taken about twenty odd years to figure out that writing is what I really love doing, and have finally overcome my fears and doubts and taken the necessary steps to pursue that passion. Now I wake up thinking of the next story, the next scene, the next novel plot. I’m loving it. So make a list, check it twice, and make sure whatever is on it makes you happy and nice.

2) What consumes your happy dreams, free time and positive energies?

Another tuffy, but not as hard to figure out as step one. Take a look at what you spend your leisure time doing. Watching shows? Reading books, and what kind? Hobbies, crafts, groups you belong to? Make sure though that you have a grin on your face while doing them, or are excited to get back to them. Add these things to the list you made from step one and head for number three.

3) Pick the one that really gets your crank spinning.

Now that you have a list of potential passion items, it’s time to choose one. Take some time to sift through them and make a choice. Pick the one item from the whole list that gets you the most excited. It can be any one - ignore any and all doubts about this choice. Whatever you do, don’t let external forces (parents, friends, pets) deter you from that choice. You know, deep down, it’s something you really love doing with a passion - so, enjoy!

4) Make the time and do it.

This is the hardest step. Really hard, because this is the step where you must face your inner critic, the external and internal demons, friends, lovers, wives and daughters and perhaps even the man in the moon, all looking at you like you have two frikin heads - ignore them all, and carry on. Carve out time every day (you heard me - EVERY DAY) despite outside deterrents and do it. It need only be five minutes. The key is to pursue your chosen passion every day no matter how long the duration. No excuses. None, do you hear me! Don’t give in to fears and self-doubt. They will kill your passion quicker than cyanide or a bullet to the brainpan. Remember, this is something you love doing. So do it. You may need to research, talk to others. Do whatever it takes. Work at it every day and soon you will be on your way.

5) Evaluate, fail if necessary, keep moving forward.

During step four you will need to go through plenty of soul-searching and self-evaluation. The most successful people failed the most, never gave up, and kept moving forward. Don’t believe me? It’s true. A big part of stumbling during step four is giving in to your fears and doubts. Don’t be afraid to fail or suck at your passion. It takes a long time to get really, really good at what you love to do and along the way you are going to suck like a 20 amp Hoover vacuum. It’s okay, and it’s all part of the process. If you are pursuing your true passion, enjoying every moment, you will get better over time. In fact, If you stick with it - really stick with it - you will become a master.

But, If you are finding that what you thought was your passion is becoming a burden and you are not enjoying it anymore - go back to your list and pick another item and repeat step four again. Be sure though that it is not just an inner demon sabotaging your happiness. Inner demons are tricky little bastards. I can never figure out why we are preprogrammed to self-sabotage and often give in to our fears and doubts - self-preservation perhaps. But who wants to just survive, when you can thrive! So make sure that when you ditch one choice and move to another it’s for the right reason and not because of fears or doubts.

Make no mistake, pursing your passion takes one hell of a lot of effort, courage and stamina on your part. Nobody - I repeat - NOBODY will make you pursue your passion except yourself. But it will be so worth it when you can wake up with a smile on your face and a desire to do what you love. And, if somebody down the road is willing to pay you cash for what you are doing - icing on the cake! This is the tricky part though, and it may never happen. But I think true success is not measured by the size of your bank account, but the size of your smile. No matter, all the time you are spending pursuing your true passion, you will be fueling your happy engine - and that is what it’s really all about.

So, I implore you, find and pursue your true passion . . . and you will find -

- there can be only win!

Until next Sunday . . .

1 comment:

  1. Good post Paul. Its great you've found you passion.

    I'm stuck at #1, have been for 20+ years of my 37 years of life...and I've spent a lot of time over the past 20+ years thinking about it trying to come up with an answer.

    I recently saw this quote.

    "People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it!"

    Thought you might enjoy it :-)